A litte love in your cup…
The truth is I felt that this space, this website, the whole inspiration to create Go Ask Ella was about empowering YOU to know yourself better and have a sanctuary free of judgment to do that in. Lots of questions about penis size, cheating problems and normalcy seemed to be flooding my inbox and I wasn’t sure how to keep answering the same questions. So I started asking what needed to change? What was lying under these questions was insecurity and not having a safe little sweet spot within ourselves to ask questions and examine our beliefs and know who we truly are.
Giving advice is fun and all but what I’m really about is offering questions, redefining stories, considering different perspectives. No one knows you more than you but sometimes we’re so up in our stuff that we can’t see clearly, like having our nose to the mirror you can’t see your face.
I wanted to figure out how I could bring back the focus to you and away from me because this isn’t about me, it’s about us figuring things out together and in truth, I’m always just a reflection.
So… drum roll please…
Go Ask Ella questions of the week are now going to be posed to YOU!
I want to hear what you think/feel/perceive and start a dialogue about the things we are going through so we start telling a new story and create solutions to feel more empowered. If you’re feeling like you’re able to be more real by being anonymous, respond here on the site as opposed to on facebook (I get it, you may not want Aunt Lucy to read about your recent pregnancy test results). Plus, you can be anonymous in your posts (just write a pen name so we can keep the conversation going and we know the different voices out there).
I also will be posting articles on topics you send in on love, relationships, health, sex, birth, life, re-birth, whatever inspires us… yay co-creative magic, let’s brew it!
And of course, if you’re preferring a more in-depth interaction with me and well, you, let me know. I’m available to connect so you can be fully supported by one-on-one coaching sessions.
As a gift to you all, a welcome back hug if you will- sessions will only be $59 for the month of July.
And from here on out, I’ll offer one free scholarship coaching session a month, just write me a little about you and why you want the opportunity of a scholarship session.
Now, without further ado, in honor of the summer solstice bird songs outside my window here’s YOUR Question of the Week…
You’re a different person than you were when you were seven years old, you’re a different person moment to moment cellularly so how is it serving you to judge by your past? Imagine you could re-create the story of your life by reframing it in the present. What’s one thing you could change that would feel super good?
Here’s an example of something I’ve recently been shifting… I’ve got a dear friend in my life that isn’t good about calendars and returning phone calls. I used to complain all the time to this person, all my friends and family and tell a story about how their behavior showed that they didn’t care. So recently, I asked myself- is that really true? If I want to create a more enjoyable experience, how can I change my perspective on this situation? I realize that I love spending time with this person, we have a blast when we’re together and that’s really what matters. Do I need them to fulfill my expectations of what a friend should be? No, I’m just going to accept them and appreciate what we do enjoy together and you know what- now instead of dreading our time together, we’re just in the flow like two little kids splashing around looking for an adventure. It feels far better then proving myself right that they don’t care or that they don’t love me. I just don’t call on them for certain things/needs- that’s not our relationship because I CHOOSE and continue to CHOOSE to see it differently.
What’s something that’s been getting to you that you could redefine?
In service to your big ol’ awesome heart and connecting to it,
P.S. Feel free to write me with questions of the week to post or topics you’d really like to open up via email at firstname.lastname@example.org. How about the topic of busting old hand-me-down sayings or concepts that need not apply… sayings like “I can only judge by my past” ick! Or why are women still threatened by other women? Cast your vote