oooooh the options!
- mac n’ chez
- not meditating
- one too many drinks
- watching gay porn and masturbating all day
- reading old journals and letters
- staying up too late
- talking to/about old flames
- dating people that your friends have on the do not call list
- your credit card during Bloomingdale’s summer sales
- your work out routine (or lack thereof)
- cookies after midnight (think Gizmo and Gremlins)
- [insert weak spot here]
You know the drill- you make an agreement about who you want to be and then you start putting things on the “To Not Do” list. Perhaps with summer aflutter and in full effect you’ve decided to not eat so much pasta or that you’re going to go the gym, yoga, run in the hills three times a week and you’re most certainly not going to mess around with people you shouldn’t ( the past, old flames or new ones that aren’t meeting your requirements, et cetera).
It doesn’t help that EVERYONE has a tip or flip on this.
Oh goodness me!
I’ve been listening a lot this week and it’s just so up for everyone, that I thought I’d add my Go Ask Ella two cents.
Getting more advice in and of itself is a temptation sometimes, too. What to do or not do?
The present moment is a practice to be more and more of who you are and align with your actions AND you’re human so you “fuck up”.
I don’t like saying “fuck up” or “mistake” because that too seems inaccurate. Let’s call them misfirings defined as: you make a decision that you don’t feel so fucking great about deep down and it’s a misfire that allows you to know what your target is (albeit after A LOT of misfires).
We are free unless we are enslaved by desire/passion according to the Greeks AKA “Sophrosyne;” simply put ‘mens sana in corpore sano‘ (“a healthy mind in a healthy body”).
Of the dangers carried by aphodisia, dishonor was not the most serious; the greatest danger was bondage to them. – Foucault, The Use of Pleaseure (Volume 2 of The History of Sexuality), 79.
Michel Foucault, in his analyzing of eroticism and the politics of a gay old era, offers the reflections of Socrates and Diogenes in the chapter entitled “Freedom and Truth.” Between the bedsheets up to the laureled crowns it’s noted that a good ruler was one who wasn’t subject to gluttony, incapable of mastering his own desires and a tyrant, well, they were prone to abuse their power.
What are you bonded to?
As the ruler of ourselves, what do we do when we cheat on us? We bullshit ourselves out of or into a situation that we know “isn’t serving our highest good” by saying perhaps- “just this once” or rebel and go into “fuck it, I only live once?” Hmmmm, perhaps patience is the greatest ruler and within an age of immediate gratification (likes, shares, invites, options aplenty), it’s hard to know what is best day in and day out let alone for the long run.
Chanting, meditating, getting into your body and taking care of it certainly assists your mind in relaxing it’s tight hold on ruling. The heart is a better master but let it not confuse you either, the subtle heart is found through constant, quiet reflective listening and it’s not impulsive or loud.
I’m opting for tea instead of a milkshake, for now, sigh (although I REALLY, REALLY want one!).
Saying yes is saying no to something else.
Make sure it’s not YOU you’re saying no to.
Love you, you virtuous freedom flyers,
P.S. For the record, I’ve moved through the need to stay in bed all day and watch gay porn, I have hope for the rest of you. Thanks South Korea!