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Mythic and Downright REAL Fabulosity…

Welcome to February, the word of the month is Fabulous (because it is).

Just to brush up on the definition, this is WHAT FABULOUS LOOKS LIKE…

Fabulous |ˈfabyələs|


extraordinary, esp. extraordinarily large : fabulous riches.

• informal amazingly good; wonderful : a fabulous two-week vacation.

• having no basis in reality; mythical : fabulous creatures.


fabulosity |ˌfabyəˈläsətē| noun

fabulously adverb

fabulousness noun

ORIGIN late Middle English (in the sense [known through fable, unhistorical] ): from French fabuleux or Latin fabulosus ‘celebrated in fable,’ from fabula (see fable ).


Fable |ˈfābəl|


a short story, typically with animals as characters, conveying a moral.

a story, typically a supernatural one incorporating elements of myth and legend.

See note at fiction .

• myth and legend : the unnatural monsters of fable.

• a false statement or belief.

verb [ intrans. ] archaic

tell fictitious tales : I do not dream nor fable.

• [ trans. ] fabricate or invent (an incident, person, or story).


fabler |ˈfāb(ə)lər| noun

ORIGIN Middle English : from Old French fable (noun), from Latin fabula ‘story,’ from fari ‘speak.’


I love the story of beauty in the image of this soon-to-be-mama. She embodies fabulous, she is speaking and telling the world with her freedom to sparkle and have some serious sass!

The stories we tell of who we are, what pregnancy looks and can feel like ARE SO IMPORTANT, in fact they are of mythic proportion because they are how we shape our world.

Legends, let’s be them.

*Dearest Sienna, thank you for letting me show the world your beauty. I’ve never loved you more! Little guy is going to mega impressed with how pimpin’ you were at 34 weeks.  ;-)

Remedy for PMS? SEX!

Do you ever have that not so fresh feeling or as I like to call it:  irrational-bitch-ugly-I-hate-everybody feeling?

PMS will do that.  Start marking your calendars to remind yourself that it’s often not you, it’s them and by them I mean hormones.

No matter how many outfits you try on nothing looks and you just want to stay home? Well, maybe that’s a good thing.  I personally think that if you don’t feel like you’ve got anything to wear than the answer is wear nothing, yup, naked time gone SEX.  ;-)

Breasts tender?  Massage dem boobies or have someone else do it.

Feeling anything but sexy? Watch or read something that revs your hot pants engine; get sexy with yourself or a partner in passion crime.

Maybe sex is the last thing on your mind when you’re crampy, cranky and squishy but it is an awesome remedy.

Bitch tested, goddess approved.

On qualityhealth.com, Andrea Neblett shares insights in her article, Sex and PMS: A Good Match and thoroughly backs up my opinion here:

Premenstrual syndrome isn’t an aphrodisiac, to say the least. Symptoms like bloating, cramps, fatigue and depression hardly arouse sexual desire. So it seems like a cruel joke that when you’re in a sexiness slump, sex is one of the PMS remedies you need.

What is PMS?

About 85 percent of women experience at least one premenstrual symptom every month, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. For most women PMS symptoms are mild, however about 20 to 30 percent of them suffer from moderate to severe symptoms.

PMS symptoms can be emotional, physical or psychological. Emotional symptoms include anxiety, depressed mood, irritability, and restlessness. Common physical symptoms include abdominal pain, bloating, cramps, fatigue and joint pains. Some women may also experience psychological signs of PMS such as forgetfulness, lack of concentration and food cravings.

Women most likely to suffer from PMS symptoms are between ages 20 and 40, have one child or more, a history of mood disorder or a family member with depression.

Health professionals aren’t sure what causes premenstrual syndrome, but the likely cause is the fluctuation of two hormones, estrogen and progesterone. Estrogen may affect feel-good hormones endorphins and serotonin, contributing to depression, irritability and anger.

Ironically, while sex may be the last thing on your mind, it may help relieve PMS symptoms. Sexual activity stimulates the production of oxytocin and loads of feel-good endorphins that lower sensations to pain caused by premenstrual syndrome. Also, orgasms release the hormone dehydroepiandrosterone, or DHEA, which improves cognition and acts as an antidepressant.

Click here to read the whole article.

Hello happiness, thank you sexual healing.

In addition to le sex, there are also plenty of additional remedies like yoga, herbs, teas and what not. Check out my previous post ‘Dark Side of the Moon (And How It Wreaks Havoc on Our Hormones)‘ by clicking here.

Spread the love and let the ladies in your life know that there is a whole lotta love out there waiting for them when PMS strikes.

Do you have any personal tips or tricks?

Comments and thoughts welcome. Also, feel free to re-post or tweet if you enjoyed this article.  :-)

Sexy? Define.

Words do it for me, I ain’t gonna lie and finding just the write sound or thought that provokes a sensation is beyond perfection (especially in the world of sexuality, no?).

Point being- I use a thesaurus and I’m proud of it.  I love my little Oxford Dictionary widget on my mac, it makes my life happy and well, sexy. So today, when I typed in “sexy” I was surprised to learn a thing or two and be reminded of some seriously sexy synonyms (mmmm alliteration).

What’s your favorite word for sexy?

I’ve highlighted my favorites…



1 he’s so sexy: sexually attractive, seductive, desirable, alluring, toothsome, sensual, sultry, slinky, provocative, tempting, tantalizing; nubile, voluptuous, luscious, lush, hot, beddable, foxy, cute; informal bootylicious.

Informal bootylicious??????? Really?  Oxford American Dictionary now includes bootylicious?

2 sexy videos: erotic, sexually explicit, arousing, exciting, stimulating, hot, titillating, racy, naughty, risqué, adult, X-rated; rude, pornographic, crude, lewd; informal raunchy, steamy, porno, blue, skin, XXX.

Blue?  That’s a new one, I seriously got schooled today on twitter and now erotic video synonyms are a hue? Yup, rhymed on purpose (moderately lame, I know).

3 they weren’t feeling sexy: (sexually) aroused, sexually excited, amorous, lustful, passionate; informal horny, hot, turned on, sexed up.

I’m somehow proud of Oxford for that one, they done sexed up.

4 informal a sexy sales promotion: exciting, stimulating, interesting, appealing, intriguing, slick, red-hot.




“It’s gratifying to be described as intelligent, witty, or well dressed, but the best possible compliment is to be called sexy. If you’re sexy, you’ve got it all. However, be careful when using this revealing adjective: It allows others a peek into your unclothed psyche. Sexiness, after all, takes myriad forms—from a Victoria’s Secret model wearing nothing but a come-hither smile and a few wisps of silk to the sullen James Dean wannabe in faded denim and snugly muscled T-shirt. Out in the world, power, money, and high social position are all sexy, but in the dark, so are submission, surrender, and obedience. The word works so powerfully because it shuttles constantly between the public and the private. What we label as sexy may be conventional and obvious, or it may hint at our own inner life, our unspoken, perhaps unspeakable desires.”

I don’t think I’d ever even noticed “word notes”, boo on me for not scrolling down more often. What are word notes?  Glad you asked because I just learned too!

Word Notes= Conversational, opinionated, and idiomatic, these Word Notes are an opportunity to see a working writer’s perspective on a particular word or usage …


Share your favorite words, what you deem sexy that maybe someone else would be surprised by… Comment below and/or post on Facebook, Twitter, etc.  :-)

Dip and Dab… the SENSE-sational secret tip that will heat up your night

Image originally published on http://www.cultbeauty.co.uk, thank you!

Like a moth to the flame, burned by the fire, my love is blind, can’t you see my desire… that’s the way, that’s the way, that’s the way love goes- or is it just sexy time?

“Pheromones are chemicals emitted by living organisms to send messages to individuals of the same species. The class most widely explored are the sex pheromones produced by female moths which are used to attract conspecific males for mating.”- http://www.nysaes.cornell.edu/pheronet/pherom.html

This week has sent my senses soaring to new heights especially after sharing a much appreciated secret tip to the ladies last weekend at the Reveal Your RAYdiance Experience.

My dip and dab tell all parfum du jour (hold onto your panties I’ll tell you in a hot second), got me invited to a “Girl’s Night In” at Strange Invisable, a high-end botanical perfumerie boutique www.siperfumes.com. If you’re looking for the right scent to be mixed up on you, do take a stroll down Abbot Kinney and find yourself (and your nose) in luxury at this haute spot!

Each scent is created by the owner, Alexandra, and they are organic perfection – if you think wine tasting is fun, wait until you get a bouquet of these batches! I love the “Aquarian Rose.”

All right, all right- so what’s the story about dipping and dabbing?

Well, first things first, answer this question ladies…

Would you like to feel sexier, more confident and authentically you?

Well, you can do sexy all by yourself each night before you head out to paint the town pink.

Let me tell you a little story, lovely lady…

When I was first out on the dating scene I was always on the hunt for a delicious perfume, I wore the top picks of the day- CK’s Eternity, Clinique’s Happy, etc.

And I swear, everyone at my college that I dated had previously dated a girl with the same scent. Drove me crazy to lean in for the kill and get “oh, wow you smell like (girl’s name here)”. Ew! Needless to say, deal-breaker.

Not to mention I just didn’t feel unique and sexy. I found myself comparing myself to other women not just visually and mentally but now scent-ily.

Years later, upon reading some good ol’ Tom Robbins, I came across a page in Even Cowgirls Get The Blues that suggested an entirely new approach- what I’ve come to call the “Dip and Dab.”

If we each have a unique come hither scent biologically created to lure in good matches, well why not really wear it?

Instead of spraying some alcohol infused gardenias, I say reach down into the lips of the oh-so-awesome vulva, say hello, and return your fingertips to your temples, wrists and neck. Mix it up with a little touch of an essential oil (your favorite, mine is jasminey rose) and voila!

It’s unique and certainly will cause a stir. Every woman I’ve shared this with has had a great night out.

AND if you’re wanting to take the edge off and really own what you are (fabulous). May I venture to suggest a little self-love time too?

It’s a wonderful way to set the tone for the evening, because you’re already satisfied and complete. When you give to yourself, it’s a good sign to the universe to send more gifts your way. A thousand compliments coming at you… I know some of my girls got more phone numbers in one night using this tip than they did in a year. Yay masturbation! Talk about taking the love from the inside out!

The sexiest thing in the world is confidence, hands down (ooh pun! sweet!).

Well, this is me, being real, raw and sharing a top-notch secret. Grandie would be proud.

Question of the Week, coming soon! Please send more my way, you are all awesome! Do it, Go Ask Ella – email me at goaskella@gmail.com